Picture this… It’s your birthday, your significant other has taken you out to dinner and when you get home he sits you on the bench outside, hands you a Bacardi Breezer (your drink of choice at the time) and blindfolds you. When he comes back and uncovers your eyes you notice he’s lit a path of tealight candles through scattered rose petals (yellow, your favourite) leading to the biggest bunch of roses you have ever seen and there he is, at the end of the path on one knee and flashing a giant diamond as he launches into an impassioned speech about how he loves you and will you be his wife?
Beautiful, right?
That was not my marriage proposal, oh no, that was the one my sister got 6 months after mine. Mine, well mine was not exactly romantic – it went something like this: (in bed one morning)
TheGamer: When we’re married you’ll be taking my name, right?
Me: I guess… you buying me a ring then?
TheGamer: Yeah, go pick one.
Seriously, that was it, we were engaged and he was serious about me picking out my own ring in a here’s the budget, find something you like and lay-by it kinda way. He still bought my ring, if you can call going to the jewellers and paying off the rest of the lay-by buying a ring. I made him get down on one knee and ask before I put it on though; a girl has to draw the line somewhere.
TheGamer is romantic in all the ways that count but grand gestures? So not his style and not mine either, I confess. The proposal (if you can call it that) was perfect for us, it wasn’t a question really, more a statement of intent because there wasn’t a future either of us could see without the other in it. Seven months into our relationship and still living in different states we were engaged and trying to find a way to merge our lives. We ended up running away, moving to England together, something that breaks many couples just made us stronger. Nine years since our first kiss and he still rocks my socks, in bed and out.
We don’t need a hallmark holiday as an excuse to go out to dinner, jacked up prices and booked out restaurants full of new love, old love and those just there out of obligation… no thanks. I don’t need a card to remind me that he loves me because he tells me every day, he shows me every day. He brings me flowers, tulips because he knows I love them and we reminisce about our time in Turkey and Holland, he brings me daffodils to remind me of that first flush of spring in England that I love and miss so much. He picks up ice cream because I’m sick, chocolate when he knows I’m sad and a Verdelho when I’ve had a rough day, he’ll buy me a present just because he knows I’ll like it… and he does that all year round.
I don’t expect a present today, I don’t even expect one on Monday (our 7th wedding anniversary). We don’t save up all the romance for our anniversary and we don’t save it all for valentines day, we spread it out throughout the year. A little bit of romance, every day.
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Oh your proposal sounds like mine! It was a Sunday morning, after a rather great night, he got down on bended knee next to the bed and asked me to marry him. He did however come with me to pick my ring out. I wanted a certain one, he didn’t like it and we actually settled on a more expensive one that I absolutely LOVE!
We don’t celebrate today either – in fact I had to tell him what day it was LOL
x
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At least you got the bended knee – I had to tell hubby to do it. Love that he had an opinion on the ring xx
Oh I am a romantic at heart.. I love days such as Valentines day and my hubby got on one knee and proposed in front of my parents and our kids!! It was beautiful and I value every day and this day with him.. On a side note I got Criminal minds season 7 for Valentines day (My fav show) and hubby has the shingles so not contact at all
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Oh poor hubby, the shingles is awful, I hope he’s feeling better.
Very sweet. Lucky lady.
But damn, your sisters proposal?! Nice work brother in law, nice work.
Mine was a valentines day proposal. 3 course dinner, ring after dessert, I cried, onlookers congratulated us. Very cliche, but we were only young. The most I get these days is some free stuff he found for me at work. One birthday I got socks. They were too big. Winning.
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Yeah the brother in law even enlisted the help of my parents to set it all up for him while he was out . My hubby can’t do big presents – he gets them all wrong, like one birthday when he got me a lamp (a really ugly one) because I’d said I wanted a lamp for the lounge room and I had to explain that it totally wasn’t an appropriate birthday gift.
Everyday romance. The little things. That’s what I’m talking about. Bugger the grand gestures – those are easy. It’s the little stuff that’s hard to remember. You scored, mrs. Congrats on your anniversary.
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Yeah, I did good (he did too though).
Exactly! A little bit of romance whenever. When we were first dating, hubster often bought me a packet of Fruit Tingles “just because” (instead of chocolates or flowers because we were both broke). To this day, he still buys me the odd packet of Fruit Tingles and does a million and one other things that are special, just to us. He’s my Valentine every day!
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That’s so lovely, what a great hubby.
I had one of your type of proposals. But we are still happy and having to make the most of what romance my husband finds every now and again. Have to take it when it arrives!
Happy Valentines Day xxx
Annaleis
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Happy Valentines Day to you too, hope you got a little romance out of it.
I laughed so much after the first par. ! Me too I did not have the big proposal. It was like you, a statement. We both knew we wanted to get married and we talked about it because we were in two different countries. Then he came to Montreal and we got engaged. No rings. We went together to buy them! We go out to a local restaurant for Valentine’s day but more to break the routine than for celebrating.
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I’m loving that this is more the kind of thing that happens than the whole big proposal thing. I hope you had a lovely valentines day.
Beautiful Kyla.
Boatman and I didn’t have a very romantic proposal either. we just knew it would happen, though he likes to say I told him to marry me!!
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It’s reassuring that so many relationships are without that grand gesture proposal – more little girls should be told that.
I thought I was the only one who had a proposal that was not incredibly romantic or elaborate (because they are the only ones you ever hear about).
Happy to read yours (and others), and know I am not alone!
It has been really wonderful to hear how normal it is to have a lacklustre proposal.
He’s a practical man. I reckon they make the best kind of husbands. And it is still a sweet little story. Happy V Day
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Hope you had a great valentines day.
Sounds very similar to my ‘proposal’, sitting in our room talking about the fact that when we get married we should do it on our anniversary so they are the same and we don’t have to remember another date. So we whipped out the phone and looked for the next time our anniversary fell on a Saturday and decided that would be the day. And that was it. We were engaged. We went ring shopping together and then had dinner at Centrepoint Tower where he handed over the box and I put it on my finger. Then we caught the train home and went to bed! So romantic. But it doesn’t bother me at all.
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I love that, hubby originally wanted to get married on the 18th of March simply because it is the day after my birthday and he would only need to remember one date to get the other right.
Dadabulous haggled the jeweller when we were getting my engagement ring made up. Some may say he’s a tight arse
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He sounds smart not tight
LMAO! I was all swept up in that moment and then you burst my bubble! Well, your lucky sister!!
Our 7th wedding anniversary is Monday too. We have way too much in common – are you sure you’re not me? 
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Oh happy anniversary for tomorrow, I hope you get a special night out. Yeah we have way too much in common, can only be a good thing, right?
Love it!!! Romance is whatever suits you and your beloved. And a bit of it every day is a much better way to practise it in my books!
x
Happy Wedding Anni!
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Thanks Grace. I’m definitely a small and frequent gestures kind of girl and I always say if hubby did something huge I’d think he’d dome something wrong.
Happy Anniversary for yesterday!!!! And that is funny how you introduced your post – totally thought the gamer had turned on the charm for a minute there!! xxx
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Haha yeah the BIL totally showed up everyone we know with his OTT proposal. Thanks for the good wishes.